The classic married person fight.
He is working extra to try to make their life together better.
She is trying to make their time together special so that their life will be better.
This is what is going on in Chapter five in Song of Solomon. They were both doing this at the same time, without communicating with each other.
Both of them end up getting upset.
He was out working hard — the dew on his hair is a clue that we was outside. It validates that he really was working.
He had fields, and groves and herds. People to manage, places to be, and important things to do.
She apparently had been ready earlier, but by this time had become irritated and then had gone to bed.
He shows us pleased with himself and ready to be with her.
She starts giving him weak excuses. She thinks he should be sorry, to beg for forgiveness.
He is surprised by her response, and after a little while goes away disappointed.
She is surprised by his response. She goes to open the door and he is gone.
They both wanted the same thing, but came at if from their own perspective.
Neither one communicated with the other ahead of time.
They both got upset.
Been there, done that……
If you don’t think that could happen to you, find some married people that you trust.
Ask them if they thought they would have fights after they got married.
Ask them is they do have fight.
It will happen. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world.