If God likes sex, why does he puts so many limits on it.
In the book Leviticus, chapter 20 lists several limitations:
a man should have sex with another man’s wife
with his daughter in law
with another man
with a woman and her mother (even if he marries both of them)
with an animal
other places keep narrowing it down to only having sex with the woman see is married to. This rules out his girl friend, the girl he is engaged to.
Oh, and add to that was Jesus said in Matthew chapter 5, if you commit adultery in your heart, you are still guilty of it. So even if mentally you are having sex with someone, but you aren’t physically doing it — you are still going outside the bounds God set up.
Why all the restrictions? It could be that God just wants to cramp your style, and to limit your fun. But it could also be that since he created us with all the feelings and emotions that he is helping us avoid problems in order to get to something that is great. When you commit yourself to one person, they commit themselves to you, that can produce an incredible bond. It is a choice that you confirm over and over. Any day you could reject that commitment and blow things apart.
Think of it this way. The instructions for dealing with a candle can be pretty simple. Place it upright, light the wick. It is ok to hold it by the part that is below the flame if you are careful not to tip it and let hot wax fall on your hand. You can even move your finger through the flame. But be careful. If you move your finger to high the flame will burn you, to low and you will touch hot wax.
The instructions for dealing with a fire in the forest. Be careful. Clear the area around it. Light it. Don’t put so much wood or other fuel on it that it can catch anything else on fire. Inhaling the smoke is not pleasant. If it gets out of the fire pit, don’t get downwind. If the wind changes and you can’t outrun it, lay down and cover yourself with your safely blanket. Inhaling the smoke could be fatal. Don’t let it catch your clothes on fire. Don’t let it catch your hair on fire.
Instructions increase and become much more important when dealing with building a fire in the forest and lighting a candle in the house. Sex is much more like a fire in the forest, than a candle in the house. You want to get advice and do some planning ahead of time. A good place to start is in Song of Solomon. It isn’t a list of what not to do, but it shows in a story how great it can be.