Scripture Text: Song of Solomon 3:5 (22a, page 180)
I want you to promise me, O young women of Jerusalem, by the gazelles and by the does of the field, not to arouse, not to awaken love until love please to awaken.
you must not wake up my love until it is pleasing to her.’ NLV
This warning was given before. A variation of it with a much different meaning is given later.
Before she was starting into a relationship. She didn’t know him very well. And even though she was physically excited at the thought of him. She advised the young women and herself to wait. But now she has made up her mind. Why not start a little early? Because you still have doubts. Should I marry him? Does he really love me? Is this the right time to do it? Plenty of questions, and a good time to figure out the answers. Once you start having sex, you block out of your mind the negatives that come up without thinking about them. You give yourselves the excuse — well we ended up getting married because we had to, because it was the ‘right thing to do’. To develop a great relationship, neither one of you can go into thinking I don’t have a choice, I ‘have to’ go through with it. Some pain now at breaking up doesn’t compare with the pain of being legally and morally stuck with someone who doesn’t want to be in the relationship. It can take years to blow apart.
It is hard enough to make a relationship work when both of you go into it fully committed to making it work.